Have you been hurt by your mother?
The pain of that relationship can paralyze our thoughts, actions, and future relationships. Stuck in the past and the wound that has not healed, sometimes we’re lead to despair.
In a transparent and courageous sharing of her own experience with an abusive mother, Marge Steinhage Fenelon takes her readers through an interior journey of the heart, that leads them out from the dark places of suffering and anger to hope, healing, forgiveness, and freedom.
All of us have broken parents because we live in a fallen state since the first sin.
Our environments growing up can leave us disabled in differing degrees. Whatever the personal experience has been, Fenelon’s words can be applied, and her guidance sheds light on way to finding true peace.
And the way?
A new relationship with Mary, Our Mother.
Beginning with tapping into a desire to want to heal is the logical first step.
Often, however it’s just easier to stuff the past and not deal with it. That’s why Jesus asks the ill man if he wants to be healed.
Fenelon uses Scripture and the Catechism of the Catholic Church to help readers understand Mary’s role in bringing us to Christ, the Divine Healer.
That proposal can be scary. We necessarily have to look back. The key is never to process alone, and to seek God in prayer, and the right persons to walk with us. Fenelon mentions her spiritual director often, and the need in some situations, for good counseling as well. Practically, it may mean a time of distancing, while continuing to work through emotions and pain.
When we are able to receive the grace and the truth that
our mothers are children of God, just like we are,
we can place them and all their fallen brokenness in our Mother’s arms.
There’s a sense of freedom that comes from surrendering the past to God’s healing power, and our present lives into the loving arms of a perfect Mom who has the power to comfort us and intercede for us.
The book prepares the reader for the beautiful novena at the end.
It truly blessed me in moving through the days, taking the time to journal and pray, and opening myself up to my own healing.
Moving through it slowly, praying to want to be healed, surrendering my past and the wounds, seeing my mother as a child of God with her own brokenness, helped me to move toward seeing her in new ways, and knowing that God had a plan and a purpose for it all.
That might be the greatest lesson. God makes good come out of even the most difficult situations, if we allow Him in to heal us and draw close to His Mother.
With love and real vulnerability, I must thank Marge Fenelon for offering her own life example as a way to help others move closer to Christ.
And so many of us need the love of the Good Mother, Mary. My prayer is that this book finds its way into all the hearts who need her most.